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The Divorce Coach 'How to Successfully Split' eCourse helps to answer many of the questions which crop up in divorce: e.g. is it really over; how do I get a divorce; what are my options in divorce; can I cope alone? The eCourse is sent over two weeks in seven parts to give you a chance to think about the content of each part before the next part arrives. You can of course work on it in one hit if you prefer after allowing for delivery in your in-box over two weeks. Whichever way you chose, the eCourse can help you gain control by enabling you to think around problems and issues so that you can move onwards and forwards if this is what you have to do and you are committed to the process. The eCourse is written by me, Kirsten Gronning and stems from my protracted divorce experience and successfully divorcing without paying lawyers a small fortune, whilst knowing it's often easier said than done to get a successful split, especially if you are unfortunate in having a (ex) spouse bent on revenge, in denial or litigious (or a combination!) People say I walk my talk - testament to the fact that there really is life after divorce, but in order to find that new life you have to confront what is going on and deal with it, whilst aiming for the best possible ending. Limited Offer- for the rest of November we are giving away free e-mail support for those ordering in November for the duration of the course to help you make the best of the eCourse for your situation. After ordering, simply drop us an e-mail with your eCourse related query at info@divorcecoaching.co.uk and we shall get back to you within 24 hours with a helpful reply guaranteed to help you move forwards. The Divorce Coach 'How to Successfully Split' eCourse £39 with FREE unlimited e-mail support for the duration of the course is available to download here. . Courtroom Coaching - Free Help to Prepare for a day in the Family Court I was reminded last month how powerful this service is going to be when it rolls out next year as I showed a client around both the PRFD (Principle Registry Family Division) court in High Holborn and the Family Division of the High Court in the Strand. My own divorce experience resulted in fifty orders from these courts, by the end of which I guess I had worked out how best to deal with the emotions such places evoke, but it was interesting to see the courts through someone else's eyes. My client was hugely relieved at having been shown around in advance of her own hearing(s) and being acclimatised to what she might expect. Feedback from 'Barry' who was worried sick about going to Court Shelagh Goldie is the lawyer in charge of the pilot and reports how Courtroom Coaching has helped 'Barry H' prepare for his appearance in court during autumn 2007. Barry was referred by his solicitor at Withy King in Bath on a divorce case.
Shelagh writes that Courtroom Coaching has helped him: · To prepare for the experience. · Understand the process and the actual preparation he should do - e.g. learning how to keep calm. · To instruct his solicitor more clearly and helped him understand the reality of the situation, the worst outcome and the best outcome. · Helped him to see things from different people's point of view - he had not fully contemplated his options prior to our work with him. · Have a much better understanding of the no blame and no punishment approach. He said it highlighted that the law is an ass! · Recognise that his behaviour would not be taken into account in any settlement, but rather it would focus on needs. The negotiations: · He said he felt he was taking a more pragmatic approach on the day of the negotiations and his solicitors had mentioned this. · It gave him closure and helped him handle things better. · He had a better understanding of his expectations. · Previously his solicitor had mentioned that he was idealistic and had been unreasonably optimistic. · He was now more pragmatic and felt he listened better rather than trying to pursue a pointless avenue. · He had a better realisation of accepting the actual situation as it is, not what he wanted it to be. How Barry felt: · It forced him to evaluate what he was really expecting to get out of the settlement. · It helped him to realise how he had to be very focused on how to answer and not be drawn into something he did not want to say - how to handle the grey areas. · He felt generally this was good preparation for court and how to handle the divorce process. In advance of a national roll-out of the Courtroom Coaching programme early next year to help people prepare emotionally, psychologically and physically for a court appearance the pilot needs a handful more cases. So do you know anyone who's worried sick about going to court whom we could help (free of charge for the duration of the pilot)? Get in touch by emailing info@divorcecoaching.co.uk This is not just for family cases - your friend/family member or acquaintance might be facing an employment tribunal; a civil dispute; or even a crown court jury member. PS. As coaches we prepare clients for their experience in court and under no circumstances do we rehearse, coach or discuss the evidence or detail of the case. Feedback from 'Julian' for whom his court case was having a serious effect on his health Julian had changed solicitors when he met Shelagh by chance in court (Shelagh Goldie is the lawyer in charge of the pilot.) He was in court on a domestic violence case (he being abused by his wife) which was having a serious effect on his health. Afterwards he said ' It (Courtroom Coaching) calmed me down a bit and helped me feel better about my legal case.' This is currently a FREE service to clients (and their lawyers) to quantify the advantages to clients, their lawyers and the courts as part of a pilot study to assess the advantages in advance of a national roll-out of the service next year. If you or anyone you know has an imminent court appearance - not just family cases, but industrial and employment matters, criminal and other civil or if they are witnesses or members of a jury and would like to learn some tools to prepare themselves for the experience - then get in touch here or read more here about the service. World's first divorce fair Here on You Tube is a clip from the World's first divorce fair By coincidence we hosted the The Divorce Coach 'How to Successfully Split' half day workshop in London on the same day - 27 October. It stemmed from our desire to fulfil a similar need to the Divorce Fair in Vienna - a need for inexpensive and useful information for divorcing and separating people. Ours wasn't a fair or free or on YouTube! You can read more here about it here and about the next planned for 19th January (Finances in Divorce workshop) and 23 February. Debenhams Separated and Successful Club in the Daily Mail Thursday 15 November 2007. Bel Mooney, Trisha Goddard, Colleen Nolan and your author in the SAS club. Bel Mooney summed up the idea behind the club beautifully when she wrote in Femail last week: 'Life should be a continuous process of re-invention; overhaul your style and you may well find that your soul runs joyfully to keep up. One of my missions in life is to encourage people to believe they can change. That's why I became a model for a day for Debenhams, who asked me and other well known divorcees to show clothes from its new collection'. She goes on: The message we wanted to get across was that women of a certain age can go through the pain and stress of divorce and come out the other side all the stronger - and even more determined to make something of themselves and their lives. It was a message all four of us were proud to endorse. Click here to read the full article and to see the most glam picture ever of me (yes, I ditched the trousers for the day!) and my blog here. Through Divorce & Beyond Support ForumThanks to many of you who live in SW London for supporting the support forum. In order to open this up to more participants we are going to run it as a tele-forum - divorce support from the comfort of your sofa for the whole of the UK! We'll be getting a programme together and some dates over the coming couple of weeks. If in the meantime there are any specific areas you'd be interested in covering, do drop me a line.Qigong & Meditation Retreat Best wishes
Kirsten
The Divorce Coach
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This information is intended for information only and on the understanding that the author is not engaged in tendering legal or financial advice. If legal advice is required the services of a solicitor should be sought. If financial advice is required the services of an independent financial adviser should be sought. The purchaser or user of this material assumes responsibility for the use of the information. The Divorce Coach accepts no responsibility for the services or content of any other sites mentioned here. ©2007 Kirsten Gronning
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